Dating can be complicated and embarrassing without knowing a few good Dating Secrets…even humiliating. Read on if you don’t want to walk away with a red face and wounded pride!
If you’ve always wanted to be out there dating, or its been a while and you just don’t know how to go about it, you need to arm yourself with a few basic Dating Secrets Rules to keep yourself out of the dating doghouse.
The three Secret Dating Rules that follow will at the very least prevent you from frightening or insulting your date, and may even help keep you from embarrassing or humiliating yourself in front of her.
Dating Secrets Rule #1
The first of the Dating Secrets Rules you need to know is this: if you asked for the date it’s up to you to plan the date. Making her plan the date – especially when you asked her out – will make a second date unlikely.
It can also help to keep that long moment of silence from happening when you ask, “What should we do tonight?”
So before the date, you should know where you’re going, how to get there, and you should have an ‘after-main-date’ plan for later.
Remember that your first date with someone is really your only chance to show that you know how to treat a lady.
Dating Secrets Rule #2
Never for any reason go into detail about your previous dates or relationships before, during or after your current date.
Nothing good will ever come from making this a topic of conversation.
Stated simply, it’s a no-win situation.
For example, if you have bad things to say about your prior dating or relationship experiences, you’ll seem petty and negative to your current date. On the other hand, if you have nothing but good things to say about your prior dating or relationship experiences, it will look as if you still have a ‘thing’ for your ex.
So if asked, just state you were in a previous relationship that didn’t work out.
And if you’ve never been on a date or in a relationship before – be honest – say something like, “I’m still looking what about you?”
TIPS – A few other topics you should NEVER bring up when on a date are money, religion, and politics. In other words, anything that might be considered controversial is best left alone for the first date. Why risk making her angry or getting into an argument?
Some safe topics might include yours or her general interests and hobbies. You can also include tidbits about your family and any goals you might have set, dreams or passions. Don’t overwhelm her and don’t lie. Be honest. Make sure you don’t develop a case of verbal diarrhea and end up telling her your life’s story as well. Let her talk and ask questions about her life. Most of all pay attention and show genuine interest. Enjoy getting to know her – take it slowly – and see where it takes you. Revealing too much too fast is a sure way to kill any future dating possibilities.
Dating Secrets Rule #3
Some dating advice can be dated at best and knowing what works and what doesn’t can be tricky. Dating Secrets Rule #3 may have you protesting in shock and awe, but wake up – it’s the new millennium! So here it is:
It’s perfectly OK for a woman to ask a man out on a date!
While this behavior used to be shocking, it’s perfectly normal in this day and age. And if you were shocked by that, we’re going to shock you even further – if she asks for the date – she pays! Get over it icon wink Dating Secrets: How To Take The Embarrassment Out Of Dating
If you’re new to dating, treat these dating secrets like rules. If you’ve dated for a while, they’re more like guidelines or places where you might mess up if you’re not careful.